Woman to Woman lets talk

It's become the emotional killer among women. Women who are just mean, malicious and disrespectful with each other. This trend is creating havoc in our relationships with each other, for it strikes the core of
sisterhood. Real sisterhood can only exist when respect and trust stand. However, what is most disturbing about our malicious ways is that we are passing on a legacy of a broken sisterhood on to others.

Women that are mean and catty are usually this way because their understanding is that this is a normal part of femaleness. To break this cycle we each need to make a conscious effort to validate all women. Otherwise, we will continue to find ourselves moving within circles of female hostility, suspicion, and pain.
I came up with a few reasons......

•  Talking about each other - You are really not her friend if what you have to say about her is so bad you can't say it in front of her. If you are a real friend you should be able to tell her your concerns for her life to her face. If you have the need to tell others, but you haven't found the time to tell her - red lights should be flashing. Women who gossip do it not because it's a woman-thing, but because they want to elevate themselves and put other women in a place. Gossiping is just another reason of deeper insecurities.

•  Fighting for a man- One of the most common things that any woman can do is to fight, argue, or curse another woman over a man. If both of you are in conflict its because his choice is not clear - then that means that he's really not into any of you. He's probably playing both of you. That man really does not deserve your love or attention from either one of you. Let him go.

•  Undermining each other - Beware of any woman who can never celebrate your accomplishments with you. It could be a new girlfriend, a promotion, an award, a new job, If she has nothing positive to say to you about it, does not show emotional support, or chooses to remain silent she is not a true friend. Real friends know how to recognize and genuinely rejoice for our successes with pride.

•  Competing against each other - You need to get this straight. There will always be another woman with nicer hair, a more caring man, better behaved children, a better paying job, a bigger house, a more fashionable wardrobe, there will always be some woman with more of what you don't have. Consequently, the only person that you need to compete against is yourself. Strive to be the best that you can be for you. Competing against other women is prove yourself superior is a financial and emotional drainer. I feel its Because of this mindless competition we become mean, envious and hypocritical. It is pointless.

•  Disrespecting boundaries - To survive peacefully every relationship and every friendship must have clear boundaries. Good relationships operate within margins of respect. Within this level of respect, privacy and intimacy are keywords. Yes, you are my friend, but that doesn't give me then right to walk into your bedroom or your kitchen  and help myself to your stuff. It also doesn't give me the right to find myself in areas of your life that I have no business being involved in. It means respecting your opinions and preferences whether I agree with it or not. I don't do this not because you won't allow me to, but because I respect your privacy and your things. Consequently, we both need to know and respect each other's levels of privacy and intimacy.

•  We need to respect women for the simple fact that they are women. If she is a woman she is a sister. Period. Therefore, from that understanding I will have the up most respect for her children, her opinions, her choices, and for her as a person. It amazes me how women are quick to disrespect another sister's boundaries, but feel offended if another woman does to them the same exact thing. 

•  Exploiting our friendships - This is a major one. Why are you friends? Do you only remember her being around whenever she could get something from you? It doesn't even have to be material. It could just be your time or your positive energy. Or is she your friend because of what you represent? your possessions, your talent, whatever, represents some form of achievement. Is she a friend because that link to you places her on a higher platform? In a real friendship appreciation, support, and loyalty is a must.

ladies lets break this cycle and spread that sisterhood.